We were at our now-weekly scheduled doctor's appointment and my being hungry all the time since the past week has not been favourable to my weight. Within a week, my weight increased another 2 kgs and I have now put on a total of 19kgs, just like my first pregnancy... only that, this time, I am not in labour yet and if I don't go into labour, it is likely that I will put on more weight. Hence, before anything, the doctor dropped the bomb and said that she is recommending a C-section for me.
We all know how much both of us are into natural birth. Of course, I wouldn't want to resist what's good for me and the baby but the fact that the doctor hasn't done any scans before coming up with such suggestion gave us a heck of a surprise. Her reason: my lack of height.
But... I think she sensed our perplexity that she suddenly said, "Of course, we wouldn't need to go thru a C-section if the weight is all mommy's and not baby's."... that is after 2 minutes of long silence with our shocked expression and after her statement that not all vaginal births are the best.
After the scan, we gathered that the baby's weight is only 2.9 kilos, much smaller than my first who was 3.35kilos. And I delivered him normal. And so, she said that oh, it's ok then... we can still try to deliver the baby normally.
"Of course, you must not put on anymore weight."
I guess she was just concerned. She doesn't know my pain threshold and she probably wouldn't want me to waste time. But I hope I could at least try before deciding on C-section.
Surely, I won't resist it in an emergency. In fact, despite my being so gung-ho about natural birth, I received two cautions from two of my very close friends. I was told by Christine before (our ante-natal trainer) that one cannot say if they'd want a natural birth or a C-section because the outcome may just be the opposite.
A friend of mine who's in Germany sent me such a touchy message warning me of being mentally prepared for a C-section. See, she had a normal birth for her first baby and was very confident that she'd deliver the second one normal as well. Unfortunately, she was fighting in pain for a couple of days and in the end, normal delivery was not the best option for her. Since she wasn't prepared mentally, she went into depression and so she advised me that I should consider being prepared for it in case the situation forces such action to be taken.
Another friend also said similar things.
Therefore, I am kinda prepared, although I wouldn't like it one bit. Simply because - I've done it before and I know I could do it again. It's weird to even think that the 2nd one will not be easy when everyone - even the doctor once said that once you have a normal birth, the second one will be easy-peasy. Unfortunately, none of us expects me to put on so much weight especially since the earlier phase showed an increase of very small figures.
So now, instead of targeting 20 July (the one prefers it if she could have a date of birth of 20072008 - conceived in 2007, delivered in 2008 - just like our wedding date 20052007 where we met in 2005 and got married in 2007), the one now coaxes little jj to come out anytime now.
In another development, a close friend of ours just adopted a baby boy who's 2 days old. They even have a friend who gave birth recently to come over to nurse the baby. The one suggested that if they'd want me to be the baby's ibu susu with no possibility whatsoever for our kids to get hitched, they should consider me to nurse the baby as well, knowing I'd be more than happy to do that.
But the question would be - our kids blaming us for decisions we made without considering the future.
As much as I'd like to help, I wouldn't want to tamper with fate. But, since our religion says the baby should be full with 3 consecutive feedings (ermmm... betul ke?), I can always do it alternately, eh? That way, I won't be the ibu susu. Ya, that can work, definitely.
Congrats, guys, on your bundle of joy.
Now, I am eagerly waiting for mine to come out. It is so intense just waiting for that moment - when the pain starts and I am ready. For now, the anticipation is torturing us both...